Misery loves company (Revisited)
In a recent post I discussed a mission I was on to determine if sympathy pains, for something other than pregnancy, were real and if there was a valid reason for this. The adventure into finding some information was quite an entertaining one, none the less.
I google searched to see if I could find the information that I was looking for and was amazed and confused at the results that I got. Has google completely lost their marbles? Really internet? So I googled the terms – “spouse feeling medical symptoms”. Maybe not the clearest of search terms because, honestly, I had no idea how to start searching for this. I didn’t know what it was even called. Anyhow, what I got was a list of results on how to determine if your spouse is cheating on you, how to detect spousal abuse, etc. WHAT THE HELL? That wasn’t what I was looking for. The more that I searched and revised my terms, the more narrow the results got.
I found a lot of information on sympathy pains for pregnancy but was having a difficult time finding anything more. Is this something that has not been experienced? Is this far fetched nonsense? I don’t know, but I did find a website that seemed to explain this sort of phenomenon.
Empathetic Psychic Abilities is what this webiste said that they were. This is the explanation that it gave—
“Perhaps the most common aspect of naturally occurring mental powers are empathic psychic abilities. This is the ability of a person to experience the same feelings or sensations felt by another. Empathic psychic abilities are exhibited even by people who doubt the existence of spiritual forces that can be tapped into. Almost everyone has heard the phrase “sympathy pains”, and most of us have had moments to which this phrase could be applied. While these are not always empathic psychic abilities being exhibited, they often are.”
The website goes on to compare these physical symptoms to the mental connection between a mother and child. It explains how a mother knows that her child is in danger, scared, or in need of something. It explains how one twin can detect the other twin in danger, hurt or dying. So it made me wonder if the connection was rather more of a mental bonding than anything. Is it possible for two people who are not blood related to be so emotionally connected that they can feel eachother’s pain?
So is all of this some form of psychic ability? I did some further looking into this and came across a website from the US National Library of Medicine. There was a study done back in 2008 on 90 couples. These 90 couples were chosen because one person in each relationship was suffering from a chronic illness that involved pain. Half of these couples considered themselves to be extremely close and have a strong emotional bond and connection, while the other half did not. The study showed that there seemed to be empathetic communication with physical attribution between the couples that were in a strong, emotionally connected relationship.
Whether this is truly the actual cause of an individual experiencing symptoms of their chronically ill spouse, I have no clue. Is it possible for a couple to truly be “that connected” nowadays? Does that fairy-tale romance still exist?