Naked Photo Study
Ok. So you all need to just get your damn minds out of the gutter. Yeah YOU! Just kidding, its okay. My mind was there too. Seriously though, battleatbipolarhill shared an article in her post today that I found interesting and wanted to share (thanks so much for sharing with us all). Its an article that discusses the possible reasons why people are just some damn miserable nowadays.
These 7 reasons are the secret to our miserable selves. After sitting and thinking about what I was reading, there was just no damn way that I could argue with what I read. It’s all so true, and it starts with a Naked Photo Study. I thought it would interesting to break up these seven reasons into seven separate posts to see what everyone’s thoughts were. These articles are always very thought provoking and we admit so but its not often we actually share the thoughts that they provoked. How do you compare to the study that you read. Are you comfortable enough to share that info?
So the article posed a question and lets all think about this seriously. If a nude photo of yourself were to turn up that would cause yourself and your family an immense about of shame and embarrassment, how many people in your life – right now- could you trust with that photo?
The results showed that the average person nowadays has about 2 people that they could trust. What was depressing was that it showed that one in four people had absolutely no one that they trusted enough. No one that they could confide in. How sad is that?
Personally, I have one person in my life that I could trust – no questions asked – with that information. I have one more person that I would consider trusting, but would probably only remain a consideration. So I am below the average in the study. What the hell does that say about me? That could mean lots of things I’m sure. What I do know is that if there is some damn naked photo roaming about of me doing something completely horrid, I hope to hell that I had fun doing it!
Its funny how we turn to different people depending on the circumstance. There are people I could with some important things and yet other things I would not feel as comfortable sharing with them. Why is that?
How do you compare? What determines who you trust with what information?
I couldn’t access the article, but to answer your question…. I think there are 4 people I that I could trust with the information – possibly 5. I would base my decision to trust these people with the information based on their relationship to me and previous experience. That is, whether or not I have trusted them in the past, and if I did, did they indeed prove to be trustworthy? That said, I would really hate for a naked pic of me to get out onto the web – so I’m very careful who I ‘play’ with ;-p
I am impressed! 4-5 people is definitely better than me. I guess my lack of trust in other people comes from bad experiences. That’s awesome you have so many people you could trust with that kind of information. I’m not sure I could even trust myself because HAVE to show something that damning to somebody! LOL
LOL! Well, I think I could restrain myself by keeping the pic to myself, but I’m not sure sure I wouldn’t need to TELL some people!
This leaves me thinking wtf? Who would you trust with that info? What do you mean exactly? I certainly wouldn’t go around telling others! I’d try and erase it from existence.
Unless you mean who you’d trust to tell them that a photo of you naked got out on the net? Who you trust to tell that something bad happened?
In that case, I can think of two people I’d consider, and one person I could completely trust.
I just consider us lucky to have at least one person we can count on. Ya know?
Yeah, it’s good to at least have one. And don’t worry, you’re not the only one with trust problems because you’ve had bad experiences either.
Life is an ending journey that decides who we become by the things we experience. Every experience will be kept in our minds and has an influence on which road we take. Some of these experiences we can influence and some we don’t. Which means we are in no control of who become. But, yes there is always a but. We can always decide whether we take the positive side of an experience or the downside. This means two people with the same experience can become 2 totally different people. That is why I only trust positive and honest people. How I make the choise, I don’t know. I guess it is just a feeling.
Intuition is the greatest thing and has proven to be a great asset for me. Eloquently put, as always. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
2 sounds about right for me. Ultimately, most people know a lot of other people but most people have a much smaller circle that they would call true friends. I used to lament my lack of a larger circle bu the older I get the more comfortable I am with who I am….
That’s a tough one to answer, but not because I’d have to think about who I’d trust with such sensitive information, but because of the context.
Little short of paedophilia, I can’t think of anythin’ that would cause my family to be embarrassed or shamed by a naked photo of me doin’ somethin’, and if I can’t imagine me carin’ (especially if I was doin’ it in the first place), so it doesn’t feel like particularly sensitive information that I should pick so carefully who to trust with it.
Life isn’t about keepin’ secrets I wouldn’t think, so if you don’t wanna do somethin’ you don’t wanna get caught doin’, simply don’t do it…so I’m havin’ trouble tryin’ to relate to the question, which in itself is what I find the depressing part: (and actually slightly related to a recent post of mine) that people are too anxious to keep secrets and be ashamed and embarrassed, that there’s so much shit people do to become embarrassed and ashamed. Society has made life a challenge, which causes depression. Life shouldn’t be an uphill struggle.
/end tangent
lol. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. You are welcome to end a tangent on here anytime. I agree with what you are saying, and yes, society has definitely made life a challenge. one of the way I have tried to overcome that is speaking whats on my mind. Most people do not do that nowadays. Especially after becoming so sick, I really don’t have time to play mind games with people. I think that is you are too busy trying to keep secrets and shielding people from who you are then you will be too busy to enjoy the smaller things in life and the people that will love you for just who you are.
If I had to trust someone implicitly with damaging or damning information, life or death kinda consequences and I had to confide in someone?….I can think of two people who would ride or die for me, without fear or reservation. They may not be able to keep their mouths shut but if I go down they’ll be there with me, holding my hand, my hair back, or plotting my escape to Canada.
I trust them because they know my neuroses, my fears, my moods and still love me becasue of them rather than in spite of them. And I love them the same way.
That is awesome RD! Its always great to have someone to plot your escape route with. I am lucky enough to have one of those people also. Thanks for stopping by.
I’m afraid I also fall in to the below average statistic! And with that in mind it leads me to answer your last question – I trust one person, BUT, I also trust my mum – but for different reasons. I trust my mum with absolutely anything, but one thing I wouldn’t want her to see would be uncompromising photos of me – but that’s because it’s my mum! OMG, could you imagine the shame of it!!
I think what it says about me is that I’m not a very trusting person. Having said that I am very trustworthy, and if someone else has confided in me I would never compromise their trust. But, I do expect the same back from them – unfortunately doesn’t always work out that way.
I run into that same problem: I am not a very trusting person but I would say that I am trustworthy myself. I think that those of us who have had our trust violated have realized just how important someone’s trust can be. We become more trustworthy ourselves only because we have felt the pain of having our trust violated and would not wish that pain on those we care about. Thanks for bringing that up!
“How do you compare? What determines who you trust with what information?”
this is so interesting!
It’s funny how we collect an array of people who we can go to. I have more than 2 people I can trust. I go to the person i think who will be “understanding” of whatever circumstance I need to talk about, rather than ‘kick me in the ass’ which is probably what I really need.
Everyone needs a good kick in the ass sometimes! We do kinda pick and choose who we go to. I do the same thing. Turn to the one who will side with me, instead of the one who will tell me I’m an idiot. Good point.