Lessons Learned
“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.”
― Robert Frost
Sometimes life throws you a curve ball, or three. These last couple of months have taught me some very important lessons. All of these lessons came from places I’d least expect.
My children.
Considering the childhood experiences I had, parenting has always been my number one priority. I’ve aimed to give them experiences I had (and some that I didn’t), protect them from things I lacked protection from, and teach them that life is what you make of it and not what people tell you it should be.
I’ve always lived by the reasoning that “things happen for a reason“. It’s been this thought pattern that has helped me to make it through the other side of an abusive childhood in one piece and through the medical battles I’ve endured most of my adulthood. I’ve tried to teach them this same thought process, all the while hoping it would sink in.
After all….. all we can do as parents is hope that what we teach is heard, that what we say means something and that we have made some sort of a positive impact on our children. As mine have gotten older, I have sat back teary eyed and watched as the years have moved on and the times of strollers and Blues Clues have faded.
“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”
― Dr. Seuss
To be honest, there isn’t a time machine in the world that I would step into in fear of losing the wonderful people they are turning out to be.
The truth is, these past few months have taught me a lot.
I think it’s only natural that when your kids get older you begin to panic that you’ve missed something. There’s always something you would’ve have done differently or something you wouldn’t have done at all. The fact of the matter is, it’s all those experiences that sum up who we are. Why deprive your children of them?
One of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned in life is this – It’s not the hand you’re dealt that determines your worth. It’s how you play that crappy ass hand that truly matters.
The past few months have overwhelmed me, so much so that I couldn’t even bring myself to type up a post. It’s truly been an emotional roller coaster and one that’s still rolling. There have been many times I thought to share what was happening but didn’t. I realized that there wasn’t a way for me to convey a thing while referring to my kids as numbers. As students, they are numbers. As baseball players, they are numbers. As patients, they are numbers.
To me, they are so much more.
When I began my blogging journey a couple of years ago, I was intent on keeping things as anonymous as possible. I became Thypolar, a comical look at some of my medical conditions. While I am not Bipolar, my thyroid sure is. Thus, ThyPolar was born. I honestly never intended for my kids to become part of my blogging experience. How I could expect that to happen considering how big a part of my life they are, I still have no clue…. but still intent keeping things as anonymous as possible, they became their ages.
They began as 10, 12 and 16. 10 is now 12. 12 became 13 and will be 14 next month, and 16 will be an adult soon.
With all these numbers floating around and there being so much to say, I’ve decided to introduce my kids as the incredible people they are. I guess it’s time to catch up on the events that have unfolded over the last few months.
“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”
― Mae West
First, I’d like to introduce you to Kurt, Mariah and Anthony.
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And such is life ….
That it is!
Seems like you have life’s values in the right priority
I’d like to think so
Seems like you have been through a rough patch my friends. I actually thought of you a couple of times, but never found time to reach out. For which I am sorry. Hopefully, you are in a better place as we speak right now. Much love.
Life happens! Glad you are still around my friend
Sounds like you’ve done your best to be the best Mom possible, and from your kids expressions in the top pic, looks like you did a pretty good job.
(yeah, not much to go off of, but still….)
Thanks! Although if you checked their expressions in most of the photos I’ve taken, you’d understand why I refer to my home as “My Asylum”.
I’ve learned through my life lessons, that it is sometimes the children who are the best teachers. We should listen to their wisdom.
I’d have to agree!
I can feel the love you have for your children. take care , you and your family.
As always beautifully written. You know just on what has been written in the past years I can determine that you are a wonderful mom. One I admire. Missed you!
Missed you too. Thanks for the chat yesterday
Thank you for sharing this particular story. I took the liberty to print it out and send a copy of it to my sister who also has 3 children – well, I hardly think one can call them children anymore , not at all of them being over 30. But that is not the point – the point is that the points you made in your story are excellent points and I think that each parent struggles to be the best. AND for sure the best includes both the good and the bad, the things done right inspite of not knowing what the “right” really was and those that just went horribly wrong for some reason or other. I think you would like the book – sorry, I can’t find it at this time but when I do , I will send you the name of the author and the title of the book. Keep up the fine efforts!!!! Quality is better than quantity!
Glad you found my post useful
Please send me the name and author as soon as you figure it out. I’d love to check it out!
I”ve missed your posts and thought that you might be going through some difficult times; thanks for introducing us to your beautiful children! Anthony looks like he takes his ‘firstborn’ status and responsibility seriously and is a deep thinker. Mariah looks like one of those wonderfully-refreshing students that i loved to see walk through the art room doors. the age of 12/13 can be brutal , especially at school. the bullies take advantage of the innocence of the sensitive ones and can make their lives miserable. “Springtime” seems to magnify those problems. Kurt looks like he has a quick mind, quick wit and is a great athlete.
(How did I do?)
Hang in there, Mom. They represent you well in the photos!
As always, I enjoy your posts.
Z
You’ve nailed them all! I’m impressed
For that reason, i don’t enjoy doing portraits, as it’s almost like being a voyeur by the time i am finished.
All three of your children look like they’d make great artists! z
I understand what you mean. I think they are all artists in their own way.
I know how there are times in life when there is energy only for the priorities and blogging takes a back seat. Hope the days are brighter now and we will be hearing from you more often.
I hope so too! Thanks for reading.
You’re back, and your parent bone is still intact
I am! And it is! For now
A good parent always worries that they might have missed teaching their kids something important, but as long as they’ve done the best they can, their efforts are rarely wasted. It sounds like you’ve done everything right. You’re kids look well adjusted so be proud of the job you’ve done.
Thank you.
Hello, Thypolar,
Your kids are pretty and healthy… Congratulations! Life maybe a war but it seems like you’ve won several battles already. Fight on! Keep up the spirit…
Thanks so much!
Thy! Darlin! I’ve missed you honey. And damn … those awesome kids of yours just keep growing up don’t they? Makes me feel old.
Give everybody big hugs for me! (yes, even HV)
They grow way too fast! Missed you
I missed you! The timing of your post is great because Kiefer and I were talking about a Vegas trip next year, and I was like, “Good. Because I have a blogger to meet.”
I’m sorry you’ve had a rough few months. I hope it gets better!
Miss you too! Can’t wait till you guys head out here. Keep me posted on your plans.
As parents, I believe we strive to teach our kids what we failed at growing up. To be better than we were. “Do as I say, not as I do” type approach. Like you said, you hope it’s heard. They’ll think back and say “Yeah, mom and dad were right”.
Good to see you posted! I think about you and your family often. I see your tweets and am relived that you’re still living that crazy life you live in Vegas! I hope things get better! You are truly blessed to have such an amazing family!
Thank you. I am thankful for them every day and am also thankful for the incredible friends I’ve made here
I am so glad you posted! Parenting is kind of like the blind leading the blind. We do what we know or think to be best at the time. Sometimes it turns out and others, well we have to leave to fate. From what I read, I say you have done a great job. So glad to be reading your blog again. I hope the roller coaster slows down for you a bit.
I hope it does too. Missed you. You always make me smile.
Hey, good to see you back – nice intro to your good-looking kids
Thanks so much! Glad to be back
Beautiful pics of your kids! Like your honesty in this blog! xx
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Having just discovered your blog, I’m going to read every post from the beginning until I’m up to date. I’ve read the first two which are heartwrenching. What a start to life. I look forward to getting to know you through your blog. You sound like an amazing woman.
Hi there, I know you’ve received such awards before, but I’m sending this one on as a token of my appreciation of your work. It is of course entirely up to you as to whether you wish to pass the award on, no pressure … just want to acknowledge you – see your award at http://journalread.wordpress.com/awards/kreativ-blogger-award/